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  • A creative schemer, writer, blogger, designer, lover of good food, social networker, optimizer, thinker, tear-jerker, supporter, linguist, culturally passionate, story-teller, road-biker, thoughtful, sassy, sometimes-chef, leader, listener, talker, dreamer.

    "People need stories more than bread itself. They tell us how to live, and why."
    -Arabian Nights

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  • "Surely what a man does when he is taken off guard is the best evidence for what sort of man he is...if there are rats in the cellar you are most likely to see them if you go in very suddenly. But the suddenness does not create the rates: it only prevents them from hiding." -C.S. Lewis

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July 24, 2008

Love, Hate & Poisonwood

I wrote a blog entry once about the things we take with us, but really it was about definition. About how the things we choose to take with us define something about us. There was a story about something similar--I read it during college--but I didn't like it. It's called The Things They Carried and I remember thinking it was vulgar. But the premise is true. What you carry defines you.

I was thinking about this again tonight because I was reading. And when I finished the book my thoughts turned to all the books I had read in the past year or so. And how those  books, the ones I remember and the ones I love, define me. Particularly the ones that I now own.

The book I just finished was Le Petit Prince, but in English. It made me pensive. Before that was When You Are Engulfed in Flames, which is named for a headline found on a Japanese fire document in a hotel. His books make me want to write. And there's Blue Like Jazz, which I am reading for the second time and is about Jesus and people and penguin sex and carrots. And I essentially love the trueness of it.

Earlier this year there was On Beauty, by Zadie Smith, which makes you feel a lot of things and makes me think of Heinrich who gave it to me and European trains, which is mostly where I read it. The book struck me as being about humility and sin, though I think other people would feel differently.

I also read Leon Uris' Exodus while I was in Europe. I cried a lot on those train rides. Because I've always loved Jewish people and the book was real. And my heart broke a little. But I associate broken-heartedness with Europe anyway, because I knew I was leaving the man I loved at the time. I cried on planes sometimes too.

The only book I actually purchased in Europe was The Blind Assassin, which is Margaret Atwood. She also wrote The Handmaiden's Tale, which I read first and left in a hostel along the way I think. But the Blind Assassin, there's something to be said for that one. I don't even remember my surroundings: I was certainly engrossed in its three or four stories. And horrified by them, all of them, really. And, while this one is harder to pin down, I think it was about secrets. And hiding in the closet from God. Or maybe it wasn't about that: I just liked the line.

Earlier in my journey of book definition there was To Kill a Mockingbird, which is my favorite classic. And P.S. I Love You, which makes me happy more than sad and, I think, makes people believe a little more in true love when they read it. If they don't come into it with too much scorn, that is. I'm sad that they made it into a movie, which I assume is perfectly unlike the book.

Another unforgettable love affair was with Barbara Kingsolver's Poisonwood Bible. I could smell Africa when I read it. Feel Africa. And I am in awe of the author's ability to be inside so many heads. So many first person narratives with different personalities to keep track of. It felt something like sheer genius to turn those pages.

Of course there was drivel along the way, as well--most of the "classics" I could actually do without, excepting Jane Austin, of course. And more fantastic books that I can't remember or don't feel like listing. But mostly I feel that my experiences define my feeling about these books and these books, in turn, define my feeling about my experiences.

And shape me. Like the things I carry.

July 19, 2008

The Best Year

During our rodeo weekend my uncle asked us all a question, one that was hard to answer and said so much about each person. "If you could relive one year of your life and couldn't change anything, which year would it be?" Essentially, what's been the best year of your life?

I said from last Aug 1st to the end of this July. This past year has been the best of the best.

I asked A the same question and he asked me why I would choose this past year. I said that, even though there were a few magnificently large blunders, the things I want are finally falling into place and my life has been changed more than once.

I landed an advertising job. With a company that represents places. I don't think it could be more tailor-made to my passions. And I have learned a lot, done a lot, there. And, now, I'm writing for them. Some. And, hopefully, only getting steadily greater in amount and quality.

Additionally, within and outside of my company, my writing/publication has increased steadily throughout the past year. Travel writing in Europe, search engine optimization for Northeast Indiana, Flash content re-writing for Omaha, language software reviews, brochures, full websites, newsletters, etc. It's the beginning of a journey down the path that I have always wanted and always been a little afraid of.

My life also changed locations. I picked up, packed up, sold and shipped and signed away my little Brooklyn apartment. And I went to Europe. I traveled by myself. I carried only a single backpack. I met people along the way that I am grateful for. And I fell in love with Italy. Then Denver.

It was also the year when I finally felt that I had put TEW behind me. I learned that I was lovable. By others. By myself. And I fell in love again. This time better. This time returned. And I learned what it was to be in a relationship where both parties were putting each other first. No more settling for less than that kind of care.

In that time I made decisions about my life. About who I wanted to be. How I want to feel about myself. And I stopped apologizing for things that aren't my fault. I started telling people when they hurt me. And walking away when I need to. Actually pursuing my dreams, instead of pursuing everything on their perimeter. No longer mistrusting God. I was made aware of my own weakness and began what I am sure will be a long journey of change.

And, so, yes, if I had to relive a year of my life it would be this one.

June 24, 2008

How to Snag a Kingfish

Gg: My aunt and uncle gave me a list of places that rich men have drinks in Denver, so I thought you and I should do some covert creepy behavior involving shameless staring at men in bars...

LL: Score on staring at rich men at bars!  woohoo!! I'm ALL in. Your aunt and uncle MAY be the REASON I marry an insanely wealthy man... and to that I owe them a bottle of really expensive wine bought by my future husband's money ;)

Gg: You're only allowed to marry one if I can sun on your yacht.

LL: What if I marry LOTS of them?  Then you can sun on ALL of my yatchs.  who knows, maybe we could cruise through an arby's too :)

Gg: You should know that I plan on blogging this conversation. Because you are awesome.

June 23, 2008

Doomed From the Start

After a long strand of fun-making at the expense of my responders, tomorrow night is my first actual date from the ad. It'll be sushi and conversation and me wishing that he still had the beard from the picture.

I will offer to the readership that I'm already moderately leery. I mean, he's handsome and seemed interesting and knows how to spell big words like "you" and "using." But, in subsequent emails, there were a couple of red flags:

1. Suggested a vegetarian restaurant. A sign if there ever was one...because, how I feel about cows? I hate them. I would like to consume as many of them as possible before I die. Also, not a huge fan of the idea of, when we go to Africa, having my ostrich kabob barfed on or looked upon with disdain.

2. Has alluded to crazy partying and being a slob. If you are willing to joke about it early on, there's probably some truth in there. Like me. I joke about being mean early on, and look at all the sweet, darling things I write. See?

3. Is from Boulder. This, in large part, implies not showering and free love and other hippie-esque behavioral problems. (I see you, little Boulderite, writing your hate mail--but I also know you won't finish it, cause your roommate wants you to join in the hookah party).

So, I'm not going to count too many chickens. Or too many eggs. I'm just going to eat free sushi. And be amused. Surely amused.

June 22, 2008

Oh Good...

yes

Dear Yes-Man,

No.

Love,

gg

P.S. you look like Michael, the one-eyed Other from Lost. Good job.

June 19, 2008

Just in Case You Thought "Boulder" and "Holy Roller" Belong Together

Good evening,
just got back from Apogaea this last weekend, the Colorado Regional Burning Man. Very good times but super tired now :) Kinda bored now since all that excitement and then back to reality.
I like hoop dancing too and poi spinning.

Top 20 things about me or just interests (yes, very random are some)
1. I am an active guy who lives healthy but not a fanatic about it.
2. I love Colorado outdoors - I enjoy hiking, cycling (road and mtn), snowshoeing, would try snowboarding, backpacking, camping (car, etc).
3. I have a degree in Kinesiology.
4.Two person tent.   Snugglie but with some room.
I like loop type hikes too.
5. I work with a summer camp for teenager with developmental disabilities. I love it.
6. I have my own place so running around naked, whatever, no problem.
7. I enjoy cooking too. My specialty is more Asian to Thai style. I love baking too. I have a killer Chocolate Fudge Chambord Cheesecake.
8. I know how to get dressed up too and might turn heads too. ;)
9. I enjoy live music and movies (love my movies) and never turn down going to an art gallery.
10. I love having someone coming along and meeting my friends. Like to go cruising on the cruiser bikes? I have 3 of them.
11. Love random and even spontaneous trips to some remote mtn town, discovering those hidden treasures.
12. I am generous too.
13. I will always try things once, just to see what it is like. I am adventurous.
14. I am not a holy roller nor do I try to enforce my views and beliefs upon another.
15. I can be fun, goofy, love to play.
16. Enjoy laughing and having one of those sessions where you basically start laughing so hard, we both fall on the ground giggling.
17. I am very affectionate and intimate. I can be sensual, slightly kinky. I am no prude.
18. I don't rush things. Enjoy the moments.
19. A good relationship does require communication, listening not just hearing what the other partner has to say. Honesty and trust, those are essential too.
20. Yes, it is exactly 20 things. Love it!
I am 5' 6", 137Ibs, blonde hair and blue eyed athletic cute guy. I am 38 yrs old with my young looks and personality.
I attached my photo too.
I live in the Boulder area.
Maybe I will talk to you soon,
SG

Dear LongAssEntryGuyWhoDidn’tReadtheAdInTheFirstPlace:

1. I do not date serial killers. Consider getting a more deceptive photograph, without the evil eyes and large amount of hair tufts escaping from the top part of your shirt.
2. I do not date illiterate men. Learn to read, paying particular attention to the part of my ad where I specify age.
3. I do not date men who use the phrase “holy roller” or call themselves kinky in an introductory email. Enough said.
4. Though I did almost consider you after reading number six. I always like to hear about stuff like that in the first email. Cheers.

But we all understand in part. I mean, you are living in the statistically whitest, most androgynous city in America; of course you have issues.

Love,

Gg

Email Feats of Great Genius

Hello,

I ran into your ad and thought I would reply.  You didn't specified what type of guy you were looking for so I don't know if you are interested in a Asian guy.  If you don't, then its alright with me.  People have different taste.  If you do, I would consider myself a great catch.  I am single, with a good career, no kids, and have never been married.  I am the type of person who enjoy meet new people and doing new things.  I would never said no to doing anything once. If you would like to know more about me, please feel free to write back and I will tell you more about myself.  I hope to hear from you soon.

Dear No-Picture:

Oh, but I did specify the type of guy I want. Interesting and with a picture.

But, alas, that was too hard.

Gg

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Hey Gg,

I'm on the higher end of your age requirement, however the rest is
spot on.  I love my bike, being outside, cooking fancy meals, useing
my spell-checker, and I hardly ever flip off the camera.  Do you go
out a lot?  What else are you into?

-R

Dear R,

Useing your spell-checker, eh? Good times.

Gg

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Here is a pic, although I'm not interested in dating you. Just wondering what it is you write? Thanks...

-Ch

Dear Ch,

Oh no! But I’m so interested in dating you! The unexplanatory email…the picture of you looking bored…god, that’s sexy!

Gg

June 18, 2008

Impressive

Hi I read your ad on CL, nice ring from Asia I like to know you, I'm nice perosn fun I dont like smoke that no no lol well I hope u like mic pic I send to you, talk to later

T


Wow.

Questions & Answers

how to convince someone u are the guy to make them genuinely happy? well in short im the kind of person that will break there back for a smile and/or a laugh. im not a freak or a guy who wants u know what, i want to see me wit u talking about what ever comes to mind  , does that make sence? im 6'2, light skin,160 lbs i like art, concerts and coffeeshop if u think we could make good freinds reply to this msg  and please dont tell me to go to such and such and make a profile please... well how did i do?

Dear Glow-worm:

To answer your first question:
1. You should definitely send said person badly photoshop-ed photographs of you with a glowing over-contrasty face or photographs of you smoking a bong. Awesome…makes me all hot and bothered.
2. Don’t use your spellcheck and do use “u” in place of you.

Oh, wait, you already did all that. On the right track then, carry on!

Love,

Gg

June 17, 2008

Ukulele Playing Physicist

Hi.

So I'm curious: what do you write? I've got an idea for a novel that I've been picking away at for months but which I haven't really had enough time for. It'd be nice to meet someone who's actually producing some kind of output... I used to have a column for the local paper but they couldn't pay me so I had to stop. Writing about factual matters was pretty easy, but I'm finding creative writing somewhat more difficult.

I have more success playing music (I play piano well and am learning ukulele). And I can do a bunch of amusing things like juggling and other circus tricks I won't mention because I'd rather they be a surprise at some point. Apart from that, I work part time in a geochemistry lab and part time as a tutor in all sorts of dry things like physics and math. It's summer now though so tutoring business is rather slow... plenty of time to go out and meet new people.

I have nothing to say about this reply, except that it is awesome that you do physics and play ukulele. What is more awesome is that this is the second email I have gotten that involved a ukulele. And, this is a good example of a response that isn't stupid or full of faux pas, but that didn't quite inspire me to respond. Note the middle ground, gentleman. And, note that I don't make fun of all, or even most, of the responses I get. Many are just deleted because I cannot date all of you and I kind of already have a thing for last week's date.

This, however, is a good illustration of that middle ground. Interesting enough to catch my attention, but not enough common ground to inspire my response.

Gigi